What’s the most common thing a child experiences? What’s the toughest situation you have been through in your entire life? What’s the worst part of being at home with your parents?
For me, that situation is when my parents fight. Both of them have so solid arguments that even the best advocate in the country would get into a complex after listening to their arguments. There is so much of noise that even the ears that are accustomed to such loud noise feel strained. And that’s when you try to find out the answer to this question: What to do when your parents fight?
- Intervene: This might not seem like a right thing to do for a young child, but still try it once! Step in between the argument and ask them why are they even fighting? Most of the times couples don’t really remember why they started fighting at the first place and if you are a person in your 20s, there are high chances that your parents won’t have any solid reason to fight. Keep them asking questions about their arguments until they themselves give up. And read point 4 very carefully.
- Go for emotional blackmailing: “I miss you so much and whenever I come back home, you start fighting like this. I don’t like this (*Sobbing*).” This really works. In fact, this is my all time favourite trick to make them stop fighting. Your parents always love you more than themselves and due to this reason; they would be ready to give up on those silly arguments.
- Never try to resolve the issue: Now, if you have read the above two points, you must read this one carefully. Don’t ever try to be a judge and find out who was at fault. This might turn out to be a disastrous step for you. It is always better to be a moderator than a judge. Be neutral.
- Tell them it is affecting you: If you are unhappy about them fighting all the time, just tell them. Don’t do this while the heated argument is taking place. Let it end and then make them sit in front of you and pour your heart out about how you feel when your parents fight. Most of the times, this would act like magic and make them realize that they shouldn’t be doing it, at least not in front of you.
- Don’t let them affect you: Just because you witnessed your parents fighting right now doesn’t give you an excuse to start a fight with your boyfriend/girlfriend. They have been together for a long time and fighting is very normal to them. Don’t let yourself get affected by these things so much that you ruin your relationships with your friends, better half or even your parents.
Such situations are very common in most of the families but seldom people know what to do about them. Even the grown-ups find it difficult to handle such situations. Moreover, this aggravates their already tensed state of mind. So, it is always better to look for solutions.
I hope these 5 points helped you out in some way. If yes, do share this so that others can get benefitted from this article as well.